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Stop Procrastination… Yes Now (Part 1)

 I read once, when someone asked Ernest Hemingway how to write a novel, his response was “First you defrost the refrigerator.”

Let’s face it, most of us procrastinate and those who don’t practice this behavior are the movers and shakers of this world.  Notice I said behavior.  Procrastination is a learned and practiced behavior.  It is not “in our genes”.  Which is great news; because that means we can change it.  The question now is what is causing it?  Why do we do it?  And how can we change the habit?

I read a great book called  The Mind Gym: Wake Up Your Mind.  In the book there was a section about procrastination.  When I was reading that section , I thought to myself, “I am going to blog on this”.  And that is where the idea for this blog started.  So what did I do… I procrastinated on it.  It was about a month and a half ago that I read that book and I am just now writing the blog on it.

Yes.  I know how to procrastinate and even though I am breaking this habit, I still haven’t forgotten the old behavior.   However, I am not a procrastinator.  Are you?

If you want to stop procrastinating, you first have to stop being a person who procrastinates.  Profound, eh?  Here is what I mean by that.  Quit identifying yourself as someone who procrastinates.  That label no longer can be worn by you.  Remember, how you think will determine the actions you take and the results you create.   If you believe you are a procrastinator, you will think like one and act like one.  It is time to redefine yourself.  You are  someone who used to do that and is now creating a habit of taking action.    Hence why I said, I am not a procrastinator.

Over the next few blogs we will look at the main reasons why people procrastinate and ways to overcome those habits.  Until then, remember that procrastination is not part of who you are.

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The Power of Support

Mike —  March 9, 2012 — 2 Comments

I awoke this morning with devout thanksgiving for my friends, the old and the new.
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

The Power of Support 

I was struck this week by what its like to have friends go out of their way to support me.  Why you ask?  Well, I am pretty good at supporting others and never think about it.  Being supported, well that’s another deal.  Sure I have gotten better at asking for it and even accepting it.

What was different this week was that the support came from out of the blue and I didn’t even realize I wanted or needed it.  Shane and I have a dear friend that decided that this website was a big enough inspiration to her, that more people needed to know about it.  So she DOUBLED our website traffic in one day simply spreading the word to her friends and associates.  She broke the record for the biggest day ever on the site, previously Valentine’s Day, and she introduced lots of people to our site – maybe even you!

Once I realized that I had this need to gain additional support for the website, I was quick to pick up the idea and actually ask for it.  Emails went out to 166 friends and that’s when you all decided to honor us with your efforts.  You then broke the record two days later when you took the time to visit and share us.

So today, I am grateful to be working with Shane on this website.  I am grateful for Juanita for showing me just what support looks like.  And I am grateful for all of you that helped us break every record by visiting and sharing UnshakeableBelief.com!

Now, you know I never end an entry without a challenge to YOU!
Where in your life could you use the Power of Support?
Remember, I didn’t even realize it.  So take a minute and really give this some thought.
What project, obstacle or task is looming over you and a little support will make it a breeze?
Now, who believes in you, or the project, and would be happy to help?

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The Situation is better than you “think”

I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.
~Mark Twain

A friend of mine has this term called “Awfulizing”.  (Thank you Janet)  It is when someone takes the facts from a  situation and creates a horrible event from them; making things worse than they really are.  (The evening news is great at doing this.)  The facts weren’t awful to begin with; however, the perspective the person choose to have about them is.  This person has chosen to make the situation awful and this is the story they tell themselves.

They choose to use the current moment in time, to think and live as if this “awfulized” story is true.  By doing this their worry and suffering is experienced now as if it is really happening, yet the situation most likely never plays out the way they chose to perceive it.

Why would we want to do this?  We know our feelings are affected by what we think about and this is only going to create awful feelings.  The likelihood of the “awfulized” story ever happening is slim, yet we worry and stress about it as if it is really happening now or as if it is on its way.

Back to the question.  Why would we do this?  Why do we do anything?  Simple; because, we get something out of it.  If our actions aren’t serving us in some way, we don’t do them.  Whether what we receive is good or bad for us isn’t the point.  The issue is, we are getting something out of this behavior, and until we change that, we won’t change the behavior.

SO, maybe better questions are:
Do you “awfulize”?
And if so, what “reward” are you getting out of this behavior?

A great way to not “awfulize” is to find the opportunities in the situation and then focus on the end result that you want to create.   For more on focus read the this blog.

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Motivation Inspiration

Did you Define Your Success after reading yesterday’s story?  Wasn’t that a great story?  I love the twist and turns as the tourist explains how much “more” the fisherman could have if he just worked a lot harder, and yet, he had everything he wanted in life already.

Success can definitely be like that.  We all know driven people who have a loving spouse and beautiful kids and are driven to be able to spend more time with them, by working long hours so there will be more time. . . . . . some day soon.

That story really hit home with me.  How many of us have attained much of what we want in life, and instead of enjoying it, we feel compelled to reach for the next “level” of success, maybe one we haven’t even defined yet.  And of course, we know where we are likely to get if we don’t know where we are going?  Right?

The world in which we live tells us always to stretch for the next thing.  Get more money, a nicer car, a bigger house.  While there is nothing wrong with that if it’s what drives you, the current financial situation shows where that can lead if we aren’t cautious.

Many people never realize they have reached what they defined as success only a few years ago.  In fact, often we decide success looks different as soon as we get close to our previous definition.

Don’t get me wrong here.  This process of reaching for more can be a very good thing.  This is just a reminder to enjoy the journey and the blessings that we have already been given.

So, if you haven’t taken the time to “Define Your Success” (in writing), do it for yourself.  Don’t be surprised if you already exceeded your definition in many ways.  If you are a goal setter, then likely you have goals and a strong “why”.  Even then, take a moment to make sure your goals and the “why” that goes with each of them is consistent with your definition of success for your life.

Remember, Life is a Journey.  Enjoying life is about Enjoying the Journey.  

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Inspiration and Motivation for YOU!

What you appreciate, appreciates!

~Lynne Twist  (Author of  The Soul of Money: Reclaiming the Wealth of Our Inner Resources)

So many people go through their day thinking about all the things they need or are lacking.  First thing out of bed in the morning its, “Oh gosh, I need more sleep”.  Then it is off to work, “Man I need a vacation”.  At the end of the day, they are thinking about all the stuff they still need to do, they collapse into bed saying “I need more time to get everything done”.

It is a cultural habit for most of the western society to want more, to never be satisfied.  Materialism.  We are are being bombarded with advertisements telling us we need this or that.  We are programmed to be consumers.  Always needing more.   More money… more time… more possessions… the list goes on and on.

To be content and satisfied with what we have is one thing.  To be appreciative of what we have is stepping it up to new level.

Joy and happiness go hand in hand with appreciation.  So when we come from a heart of appreciation it not only changes our perspective on things, it changes our body chemistry and therefore, our feelings.  We feel uplifted and inspired.

Appreciation and gratitude are very empowering.  These have us focusing on what we want rather than what we don’t want.  (See “Focus”)

Imagine the opportunities that come to you from a place of appreciation and what you will create in your life when you are living from this space.

What do you appreciate?   Your job?  Your health?  Yourself?  And what about yourself do you value?  Who else do you appreciate and why?    If you dont appreciate yourself or others, don’t expect others to appreciate you.

Write a list of what you appreciate and keep this where you can see it.  Have this as the first thing you think about when you wake up and the last thought through your head when you go to sleep.

 

 


Goal Setting Tips

Mike —  February 27, 2012 — Leave a comment

 Motivational for YOU!

Today, UnshakeableBelief.com provides a list of our favorite goal setting techniques.  We hope you’ll find these helpful when charting your journey.  Let us know what works for you and your favorite goal setting principals.

Goal Setting

Goal setting is an excellent tool/resource to get what you need or want in life.  This is an overview on the topic touching on the main principles.

1.      Use the K.I.S.S. method (Keep it simple Superstar!).  It is easy to over analyze and complicate things.  Keeping the goal setting process simple and consistent is highly effective.

2.      Begin with the end in mind.  What is the outcome you desire to create?  The destination is the goal.  A lot of people get tripped up focusing on the activities or steps and goal setting around those.  Set goals based on the end result you want to create and focus on that.  When you do this, opportunities present themselves to assist you along the way.  If you only focus on the planned steps to the end result you can miss other great opportunities which are outside of what you are expecting.

Based on the law of attraction you attract into your life whatever you give your attention, focus and energy to.  What do you want to create?  Do you want to achieve a step toward the goal or the goal itself?  For example, do you use goal setting to book the airline ticket, or spend a week at Disneyland?  Which of these are likely to get you excited?

3.      Set S.M.A.R.T. goals.

  • S =  Specific:  Clearly define what it is you want.
  • M = Measurable:  Include a way to measure your progress
  • A =  Aggressive & Attainable:  Aggressive enough to inspire and motivate us and makes the goal worth achieving.                 Yet it’s within your  capabilities.
  • R = Relevant:  Do you care enough about the goal to make it a priority?  Set goals you care about.  (Really did I have to say that?)
  • T = Time-Specific: Give it a deadline.  A goal without a deadline is a wish.

4.      Write your goals down and read them every day.  Write it in present tense and in a short, clear and concise way.

  • For example:
  • I weigh a lean and healthy 150 lbs. on or before July 30, 20xx.
  • I easily earn $ 10,000 per month on or before August 15, 20xx.

5.      Examples of Types or categories of goals

  • Family and / or Relationship
  • Financial
  • Health and Fitness
  • Business or Career
  • Community / Charity  (What difference do you want to make in the world)
  • Education and Personal Development
  • God / Spiritual
  • Recreation / Free time / Hobbies

There are many books written on the topic if you want to do further study on the subject.

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Encourage and Inspire

Three Fun and Easy Ways to Encourage People!

How aware are you of people and their needs?  What do you do about it?  What ways can you support others?

Here are three great ways to encourage people and build powerful relationships:

Listen – so often people simply want a place to be heard, without judgement and without being told what to do.  Connecting with people and finding out what’s been going on in their life can be a very powerful gift.

Often in these conversations while my friend is talking and I am listening, they will discover a solution to something that is going on in their life .  Did I fix the problem or give them a solution?  NO!   All I did was make myself available and give them the space to talk things out. . . cost to me?  a little bit of me, a little bit of my time, and a few minutes of truly listening.

Be Aware – when we listen carefully to people, we can often tell when something isn’t okay. An inflection in their voice or a non-verbal cue will be the tip off.  When you sense these things, simply check in with that person and ask if they are okay and if anything is going on.

You will be surprised what you might learn.  And often the person is grateful that you care enough to ask.  Of course, this isn’t an interrogation – so ask because you care – not because you are searching for blood.

Celebrate Victories – how many people do you know who work and work to achieve a goal, and the minute it is achieved, they write another goal and move on.  There is nothing wrong with that, however, it’s an awesome thing to STOP, CELEBRATE, and then move on to the next goal.

So imagine your friends surprise when you ask them how they CELEBRATED the latest accomplishment?!  If they haven’t, then help them by finding a way to celebrate with them!  Bonus, right?  They celebrate and you get to join the party!  Help your friends to stop and smell the roses, or, put another way, to enjoy the moment!

Encourage People!  Be Encouraged – a great quote for you here.

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