I’m not a big fan of saying goodbyes. I would rather do a “see you later” type of farewell. Of course, going away parties are part of the whole moving experience which means saying goodbye or see you later is the end result as the party draws to a close.
It was interesting watching how different people went about saying their farewell. Some avoided it, others embraced the goodbye and shared from the heart, while others, like myself, did the “see ya later” style. (I guess saying goodbye sounds too permanent.)
As the leaving date came closer the more of these I got to experience. I know that I will be back to visit and I also know with the Internet it is now easier than ever to stay connected; however, this didn’t seem to make it easier.
Saying goodbye to my family on the last day was the hardest. Realizing how things were going to change, with the physical distance we would be apart, I starting having regrets for things I wished I had done. “I should have”… spent more time with my family, told them I love them more often, etc. This line of thinking is all about the past and I couldn’t change any of it. It is what it is. Besides, someone once told me, “never should on yourself.” All I can do about it is learn from it and make any necessary changes.
Another line of thought was “I can’t wait to get this over with”. Basically, I was looking to the future because I didn’t want to deal with the feelings of the present moment, I didn’t want to say goodbye. One minute I’m regretting not spending enough time with them and the next I’m wish that the present moment would be over fast.
The time had come, I had stalled as long as I could, it was time to say goodbye.
The time of saying goodbye was hard and it also was awesome. I felt loved and blessed to have had the time I had with my family and I cherish the memories. I physically left family and friends behind and I took the memories with me. The relationships will continue even though they may look different for the moment. Not to mention, there’s always skype.